This is a different anon, I was just wondering about other things that you have tried during sex? Right now me and my boyfriend have "vanilla" sex and it sounds like what you do is much more satisfying and if you could just explain what else you do, that would be really helpful. Thank you.
Before I tell you about the little things I do in bed, I want you to make sure that your boyfriend and yourself are completely comfortable with the idea of “spicing things up.” You must be able to trust him completely and he must be able to trust you. Talk to him about what you would like to do in bed and make sure he is comfortable with it. <3
I’ve already explained choking, both ways as dominant and submissive. Choking is actually kind of scary, but that’s what makes it fun. If you’re trying it out for the first time, make sure you apply little pressure at first, just having your hands around his throat, and gradually apply more. As a submissive, choking is so absolutely delicious, because you are receiving a good raw amount of pleasure, you give in completely to your partner and it almost feels like you’re handing your life over to them. If I died by someone choking me while fucking me, I would be so happy. As a dominant, choking is also rather pleasurable because you can feel the way your partner reacts to it, you can hear it in the strain of their voice and you can feel the air move in and out underneath your hands. You feel completely in control and responsible for whatever pleasure they are receiving. It’s pretty dang cute.
Bondage is another one that I like. I suggest not rushing into it if you don’t know what to expect though. I suggest self-bondage masturbation, to kind of figure out exactly how you like being tied up. It’s pretty easy, I just got a couple of bathrobe ties or scarves and tied my legs together or tied them to towel racks on either side of the bathroom, which are pretty basic positions. Legs super tight together so you can’t move them or legs super spread apart so you can’t pull them together. Masturbate with either of these to get the gist of bondage, just a basic introduction, also to see whether you would be into it. With a partner, the dynamics completely change, but you will understand what you like. As a submissive, I like being tied up legs together, hands behind my back, taking it from behind. It’s a very surreal experience because at the time you’d most like to touch and hold and writhe, you simply can’t. You feel detached from your body but also completely restrained by it. The pleasure is lovely, because you are completely helpless. As a dominant, tying up is oh so fun. I like tying up my boys pretty simply. Stringing them up like Christ on a cross, or with their legs apart, it’s pretty fun. Again you feel completely in control of the amount of pleasure the receive, this time because you are. If I’m stringing a boy up, I expect to be on top the entire time, so I have to change things up and make it interesting. The faces they make are so cuuuute. Start off slow, maybe just having your hands tied behind your back, or tying theirs to the bed posts, and gradually move up from there. It definitely takes a lot of practice (knots and ties and different techniques), but it’s so much fun.
Spanking. So spanking is so kinky and lovely and hnnnng. I absolutely love pain. You definitely don’t want to go all out in one hit or hit as hard as you can every time. The trick is to just slap, a little bit of force, not too much, but enough. That way, you can go for quite a while without experiencing too much pain all at once. Once you get a solid pretty blush on your butt, you’re good to go. You might think “This is kind of lame…” but trust me, after a good while of being slapped with the same force repeatedly, it definitely starts to hurt (in a good way). I’ve only been on the submissive end of slapping, but not for long ;3
Those are the main three that I definitely like a lot in bed. They’re not very extreme but they are very very satisfying and cute and it’s okay to giggle whilst doing them (especially spanking) because sex is fun and lovely and you should giggle every once and awhile. If you want more, just ask. Talk to your boyfriend about it and definitely tell me how it goes!